the following is from qq's blog. haha... there's often stuff like this posted there. interesting and thought-provoking. calls for some degree of self-reflection in the reader i feel. so, what is it for you?


"When we meet the right person to love, when we're at the right place, at the right time, that's chance. When you meet someone you're attracted to, that's not a choice. That's chance. Being caught up in a moment is not a choice. That's also a chance.

The difference is what happens afterwards. When will you take that infatuation, that crush, that mind-blowing attraction to the next level? That's when all sanity goes back, you sit down and contemplate whether you want to make this into a concrete relationship or just a fling.

If you decide to love a person, even with his faults, that's not chance. That's choice. When you choose to be with a person, no matter what, that's choice. Even if you know there are many people out there who are more attractive, smarter, and richer than your mate, and yet, you decide to love your mate just the same. That's choice.

Infatuation, crushes, and attraction come to us by chance. But true love that lasts is truly a choice. A choice that we make.

Regarding soulmates, there's a beautiful movie quote that I believe is so true about this: "Fate brings you together, but it's still up to you two make it happen." I believe that soulmates do exist, that there is truly someone made especially for you. But it's still up to you to make the choice if you're gonna do something about it or not.

We may meet our soulmates by chance, but loving and staying with our soulmate is still a choice we have to make. We may have been searching too hard for the perfect one and so the saying goes, "Fret not, for the perfect one will come to you without you having to search for her..." but then again, we came to the world not to find someone perfect to love, BUT to learn how to love an imperfect person perfectly..."

It's true when people say you'll only learn the real value of things when you lose them. I have. And regretting doesn't help.

I believe everyone, like me, has at one point of time or another, wished that they could turn back the hands of time to undo certain things they did or said. I know that it isn't possible to do that, but there are things that can be done to salvage what's left of any situation. It just depends on whether you really want it or not.

"...love is probably the most strangest thing in the world. it hits you when you least expect it, it gives so generously, yet takes selfishly. at most times it has regard for others and yet, we sometimes still feel the pain in which this unusual feeling brings..."