food for thought- wad is love?

okies.. e following is from QQ's blog.. food for thought.. haha.. tell me wad u think after reading it.. =)

 
"Couples who do not refrain from premarital sex are not likely to refrain from extramarital sex. Sexual attitudes are not likely to change after marriage. If people engage in sex before marriage, they are more likely to compare, suspect, cheat on their partners, and have subsequent sex partners"
 
haha!! but funny thing is that i think my lecturer is not against that. when i asked him his views, he said " i had lotsa fun!" hahaa!!! i burst out laughing! but i guess this textbook is all about perception. something which is different from reality and just a kind of belief. for me, i think premarital sex is ok as long as both parties know whatz the meaning behind it. Maybe we shall talk about love.
 
@ when only intimacy (feelings of the warmth of emotional bonding, willingness to share private thoughts with one's beloved) is present, it's friendship(liking).
 
@ when only passion (physical attraction and desires for sexual involvement) is present, it is infatuation.
 
@ In a long term relationship where there is no passion or intimacy, it's empty love.
 
@ In a long term relationship where there is intimacy and commitment (concious decision to be faithful in the long term regardless of the circumstances), it's compassionate love.
 
@ when someone hero-worships from afar, it's fatuous(lusty) love.
 
@ when there is passion and intimacy with no commitment, it's romantic love.
 
@ The most fulfilling type of love has all three components, and Sternberg calls it consummate love.
so what do you think?~ what are you looking out for?~ is it now a better definition for everybody?~
 
haha.. so guys, wad do u think..?
well, personally, i do not believe in premarital sex.. seriously, how do u noe if ur actions will not affect that someone special who u will meet later in life..
many things seem to be transient in this world..
but u never noe, there may be permanence in some things..
and if there is indeed permanence in love,
why not wait for it?
instead of being driven by that moment of passion n folly?